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Location: oconomowoc, wi | vegas492 - 5/8/2014 1:30 PM
My wife picked out our Ranger.
Count me as a lucky one too.
My wife is constantly dreaming about how we can either have careers in Vilas County, or how we can save to retire there early.
Again, count me as lucky.
ummm.. your wife's name wouldn't happen to be Deb would it? that is describing my wife to a T! |
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| Bondy - 5/8/2014 10:32 AM
I had fishing mentioned in our wedding vows. The pastor read it in front of everyone...so far so good.
That's awesome!!!  |
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| Muskies were mentioned several times in our vows. I remember because it was five days ago.
Our pre-martial counselor was very clear in explaining to my then fiance' that I am what I am and my paterns aren't going to change once we are married. I was thinking about reaching accross the desk and fist bumping the counselor but decided against it. |
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| I do find it odd that many claim to not change and stay who they are, I would think people would want to grow and continually strive to be a better person. Weird to see growth viewed as not being "true to yourself".... |
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Location: Grand Forks ND | teddy b - 5/8/2014 4:14 PM
Muskies were mentioned several times in our vows. I remember because it was five days ago.
Our pre-martial counselor was very clear in explaining to my then fiance' that I am what I am and my paterns aren't going to change once we are married. I was thinking about reaching accross the desk and fist bumping the counselor but decided against it.
Just remember that it is a two-way street and your wife should be afforded the same. |
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Location: oswego, il | Did anybody figure eight their wife and then kiss her at the end? Now that would be cool. |
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Location: oconomowoc, wi | ToddM - 5/8/2014 4:27 PM
Did anybody figure eight their wife and then kiss her at the end? Now that would be cool.
tried that.. threw my back out!  |
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Location: Chisholm, MN | Sounds like it all worked out for some of you! I'll keep looking then.... |
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Location: Minnesota | back when I was much younger I was dating a younger lady I was 26 she was 19. started dating in Jan, things were great till sept. I came home she asked what we were doing this weekend? I told a friend and I were going grouse hunting.that was it she had nothing to do with me because I was a hunter.Fishing is the same . Im still not married some times I wish I was. there is more to life then hunting and fishing . some day ill find that right lady . |
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| Bottom line is its all about balance. There's WAY more to life than muskies/fishing!! Been married 13 years and 2 kids and got the itch for fishing early but learned to balance when married. My wife does not like to fish but we spend more time on the Ranger as a family than my fishing time. I got the itch/obsession bad just like any other sportsman and it started to cause issues fast! I learned to balance it all out and accept everything comes before fishing. I sure know my wife or most wives don't have a hobby that can keep you away for 8-14 hours in 1 day! You just have to accept that you'll be a average fisherman and do the best you can with limited time on the water. We've all heard it... Nothing replaces time on the water! You can't compete with the "best of the best" or be "dialed in" all the time if your not on the water daily/every couple days. I love fishing. It's in my blood but I've found that same feeling playing with my kids or quality time with the wife. I know guys, guides and outdoor junkies who are some of the best anglers I've seen but they have nothing, absolutely nothing else in life but catching big fish. Some may be built that way, to be alone in life but that certainly isn't the life for me. I'm just as passionate about fishing now as I was back in the day but choose my days wisely and accept I'll have tough days not being on the water like I used to. What's cool is my kids are now old enough to join me and they love the water, boat and fishing. I'd rather put them on bass or gills with a worm for a few hours than chase Muskie or Tarpon. That's when angling gets really fun!! Bottom line is either find the right woman who will put up with your fish addictions and let her do what she wants on her own time or find a balance if you want a family and serious fishing. From my view... There's WAY more to life than fishing!! There's also WAY more in angling than Muskie!! |
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| The old saying goes" fishing ruins many a good marrige but marraige ruins many more good fisherman" |
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| Well lets see 3 marriages. 1st wife the only pole she had a hold of was the pole she danced around in a barroom, no fishing from this one, she did make a lot of cash though. 2nd wife not coordinated, or liked fishing. 3rd wife AWESOME ! Hard worker, excellent career, wonderful woman, and has caught over a dozen 6 lb. plus Smallmouth Bass, numerous Pike, Walleye and 1 Musky. Good with a bait caster too, can undo a birds nest herself. Not only a great wife for last 20 years but a great fishing partner too. I feel so fortunate to have her ! |
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| I'm very blessed with a wife that is just as, if not more, of a diehard as I am. She loves to go to the shows, and see all the new crap. She said she even wants to get me a new Terrova with Ipilot for my birthday. It is so nice to have an awesome wife, and a great fishing partner! |
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Location: The desert | Detroithardcore nails it. |
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Location: one foot over the line | I love you just the way you are, now change. |
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Location: Land of the Musky | My wife better like my hobby. Pays for the house and helped keep here home for the first 8 years of our kids lives. AND bless her heart, she is a work horse for TI and I could never do it without my partnership with her. She is the reason we ship so fast! ha ha |
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Location: Madison, WI | Man, if your wife can't put up with one of your favorite hobbies, there's problems. Women have hobbies, and I love and appreciate my wife's hobbies and everything she does in her spare time. She loves that I musky fish because it can keep me out of her hair haha. But seriously, I never would have gotten into a relationship with someone that would "forbid" me from doing something I love, just like I would never "forbid" her from doing something she loves. Marriage is a partnership about loving everything about each other. (yes, learn to love the good and bad). I love musky fishing, and she knows that and would never stop that. I support her in everything she does, she supports me. Best combo on earth, and that's how marriage should be. |
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Location: Pigeon Forge TN. | Clockwise for right handers and counter clockwise for left handers
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| If you're keeping up with home maintenance and projects, doing your fair share of child-rearing, investing enough in your marriage to maintain mutual love and respect, and earning enough money to support the family AND the hobbies, then you earn the privilege to fish, hunt, etc. If there's not enough time and money to keep all those fires burning, then you cut out the fishing/hunting first, I think. If hobbies are causing conflict, then either you're not meeting the other needs, or your wife has issues that won't even be fixed by cutting the hobbies.
If you're thinking about marrying, you're best off fishing the MOST during your engagement so that she's not surprised once you're actually married. You don't want to make her think she's the center of your world and then be constantly absent once you tie the know - that's really not fair. |
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Location: Blaine, MN | I look at it this way... There wouldn't be any enjoyment in coming home from a week in Canada, or a long weekend fishing to an empty house with no one to share my boring success and fail stories with. nothing to look forward to but work, or the next trip to occupy time/thoughts. |
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| Been married for 25 years. One child out on her own and the other goes to Point. Recently retired after 40 years on the work force. Now the wife says not one penny of retirement savings will be used for fishing. Someone mentioned a counselor,his idea was ,sell my boat,take a quarter of the procedes,take one last fishing trip and then NEVER FISH AGAIN. Great advice. The wife expects me to just easily giv e up something I've done my entire lfe because neither her or the counselor have a clue. Fishing or any other outdoor activity means nothing to them
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Location: Franklin, WI | A few years ago my current partner's ex-partner's wife told him that if he went musky fishing that weekend, that would be the end of their marriage.
I got called to substitute for him at the last minute and went to Paul's Pro-Am in Eagle River.
To make a long story short, we took first place, and split $15,000. I went home and gave my wife some 'shopping' money and she never complains about my fishing tournaments any more! In fact, she encourages me to go! |
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Location: central Wisconsin | KSauers - 5/9/2014 9:02 AM
Been married for 25 years. One child out on her own and the other goes to Point. Recently retired after 40 years on the work force. Now the wife says not one penny of retirement savings will be used for fishing. Someone mentioned a counselor,his idea was ,sell my boat,take a quarter of the procedes,take one last fishing trip and then NEVER FISH AGAIN. Great advice. The wife expects me to just easily giv e up something I've done my entire lfe because neither her or the counselor have a clue. Fishing or any other outdoor activity means nothing to them
Is your wife still working? |
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| yes she is. she's younger than I am. |
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Location: New Hope MN | KSauers - 5/9/2014 9:02 AM
Been married for 25 years. One child out on her own and the other goes to Point. Recently retired after 40 years on the work force. Now the wife says not one penny of retirement savings will be used for fishing. Someone mentioned a counselor,his idea was ,sell my boat,take a quarter of the procedes,take one last fishing trip and then NEVER FISH AGAIN. Great advice. The wife expects me to just easily giv e up something I've done my entire lfe because neither her or the counselor have a clue. Fishing or any other outdoor activity means nothing to them
Why is she saying not one penny of the retirement money? Do you have enough saved up for retirement? How about picking up a part time job and using that money to fund fishing? |
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Location: Blaine, MN | KSauers - 5/9/2014 9:02 AM
Been married for 25 years. One child out on her own and the other goes to Point. Recently retired after 40 years on the work force. Now the wife says not one penny of retirement savings will be used for fishing. Someone mentioned a counselor,his idea was ,sell my boat,take a quarter of the procedes,take one last fishing trip and then NEVER FISH AGAIN. Great advice. The wife expects me to just easily giv e up something I've done my entire lfe because neither her or the counselor have a clue. Fishing or any other outdoor activity means nothing to them
This seems exceptionally aggressive and 1 sided.... Retirement is when I plan to catch up on my fishing |
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| dtaijo174 - 5/9/2014 11:24 AM
KSauers - 5/9/2014 9:02 AM
Been married for 25 years. One child out on her own and the other goes to Point. Recently retired after 40 years on the work force. Now the wife says not one penny of retirement savings will be used for fishing. Someone mentioned a counselor,his idea was ,sell my boat,take a quarter of the procedes,take one last fishing trip and then NEVER FISH AGAIN. Great advice. The wife expects me to just easily giv e up something I've done my entire lfe because neither her or the counselor have a clue. Fishing or any other outdoor activity means nothing to them
Why is she saying not one penny of the retirement money? Do you have enough saved up for retirement? How about picking up a part time job and using that money to fund fishing?
I think we have enough. Compared to my peers we have a lot more. Why she says that,because its our retirement money and we don't fish so therefore.......
that was suggested by me but she said anything I wou;ld make would go to bills and we pay our bills now. |
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| short STRIKE - 5/9/2014 11:27 AM
KSauers - 5/9/2014 9:02 AM
Been married for 25 years. One child out on her own and the other goes to Point. Recently retired after 40 years on the work force. Now the wife says not one penny of retirement savings will be used for fishing. Someone mentioned a counselor,his idea was ,sell my boat,take a quarter of the procedes,take one last fishing trip and then NEVER FISH AGAIN. Great advice. The wife expects me to just easily giv e up something I've done my entire lfe because neither her or the counselor have a clue. Fishing or any other outdoor activity means nothing to them
This seems exceptionally aggressive and 1 sided.... Retirement is when I plan to catch up on my fishing
I had looked forward to retirement for years for that very reason but it's turned into just the opposite for her. |
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| KSauers - 5/9/2014 11:55 AM
dtaijo174 - 5/9/2014 11:24 AM
KSauers - 5/9/2014 9:02 AM
Been married for 25 years. One child out on her own and the other goes to Point. Recently retired after 40 years on the work force. Now the wife says not one penny of retirement savings will be used for fishing. Someone mentioned a counselor,his idea was ,sell my boat,take a quarter of the procedes,take one last fishing trip and then NEVER FISH AGAIN. Great advice. The wife expects me to just easily giv e up something I've done my entire lfe because neither her or the counselor have a clue. Fishing or any other outdoor activity means nothing to them
Why is she saying not one penny of the retirement money? Do you have enough saved up for retirement? How about picking up a part time job and using that money to fund fishing?
I think we have enough. Compared to my peers we have a lot more. Why she says that,because its our retirement money and we don't fish so therefore.......
that was suggested by me but she said anything I wou;ld make would go to bills and we pay our bills now.
This seems really extreme! You've worked hard and put your 40 years in. I think both of your retirement time should be doing what you both love in life. That includes fishing for you and whatever she loves to do. Add in what you guys can do together in retirement and life should be good!! I've got a long time till I retire but plan on fishing more than I do now and the wife knows it! This should be the time to celebrate and really start living life!! Good luck with this! I really hope your wife will come to a resolution because if fishing is in your blood and makes you happy then she really can't stop you or you'll be miserable and resent her. Again, all about balance and compromise. Hang in there buddy!! |
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Location: The desert | What exactly is she expecting you to do? Sit around?
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