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| How many of you have been stuck in this position? How many marriages have ended because of musky fishing? how many have been forced to decide between the wife and musky fishing up north or in Canada? |
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Location: oconomowoc, wi | my wife outfishes me some years.. i got lucky! |
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Location: On the Niagara River in Buffalo, NY | My wife had put up with me guiding and being away from home sometimes 5 months in a row at Chautauqua Lake and 3 more months in row in Guyana S.A..This year I moved operations back closer to home on the Niagara River and home every night,but wait till she finds out that Guyana S.A. will include October,January,Febuary,March & April for 2015.But then again she has been allowing me to fish like this since 1977,so I have to say my wife is assume! |
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| You either have a wife who is a whole heckava lot more important to preserve than any darn hobby ( I do) or you don't. Decide which of those two you fit into and then act accordingly. |
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| My wife loves to fish. Walleyes, muskies, bass, crappies...etc. She just loves being in the boat. And she catches her fair share of muskies. Totally love that about her. She had never made a cast before she met me, but she sure picked things up quickly. |
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Location: North Central PA | Junkman - 5/8/2014 8:38 AM
You either have a wife who is a whole heckava lot more important to preserve than any darn hobby ( I do) or you don't. Decide which of those two you fit into and then act accordingly.
X2 It's all about priorities in life! |
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| If you have asked this question, it is time for some counseling if you want to keep the marriage. Fishing or any hobby is replaceable if one really values the marriage. |
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| Fishing spots and women come and go |
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Location: minocqua, wi. | it was part of it … expensive divorce and worth every penny. |
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| better in a boat then a bar.. my wife fishes and works beside me making baits.
clean socks good food what else can I ask for.
find the right girl
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| NO WIFE HAPPY LIFE |
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Location: Minnetonka | "Live and let fish." |
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Location: MN | Men marry women hoping they will never change but most women do. Women marry men hoping they can change them but most men don't. Make sure she knows there is no changing your habits/hobbies before you tie the knot.
I have had a couple girls who did not make it through hunting season. Now I have a musky addiction that is probably worse and takes up more time. I'm gonna need a helluva tolerant woman...if such a thing exists. |
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Location: oswego, il | I could count on one hand the amount of times I fished when I was married. It was never a point of contention as I never had the time. I even sold my boat that I had before I met her because I never had a chance to use it. It did not end because of that. She found my breathing annoying, I could not figure out what the big deal was but she wanted me to stop. |
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Location: Smith Creek | You need to work on trust. Then and only then will you be able to fish AND have a satisfying sex life.
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| I practice catch and release with muskies and women.
It works out pretty well ... most of the time! The muskies love being released, the women not so much sometimes 
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Location: Money, PA | It was in the prenuptial....I'm a fisherman, take it or leave it....first one left it...BYE...They are all welcome to join in or simply live with it. Current wife is cool and understanding...she loves to fish and gets involved when she feels like it. Once the boys get old enough, we will be gone alot; so she had better either find a hobby or Get In, Sit Down & STFU! |
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| I had fishing mentioned in our wedding vows. The pastor read it in front of everyone...so far so good. |
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Location: South-Central PA | KSauers - 5/8/2014 9:03 AM
How many of you have been stuck in this position? How many marriages have ended because of musky fishing? how many have been forced to decide between the wife and musky fishing up north or in Canada?
Dude, you're coming at this from the wrong perspective. Why does it have to be either / or?
If a hobby costs someone a marriage, their priorities are certainly in the wrong place. If someone is that selfish, they shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. Be a husband/father- don't stop dating your wife, help out around the house, spend quality time with her and the kids. Invest in your marriage!
I'm far from the worlds best husband but I do my part around the house and I spend a lot of time with my kids. My wife is very supportive of my hunting / fishing / rod building and she has NEVER said no to a hunting / fishing trip for me- she's never even given me a hard time about all the time I spend hunting and fishing. I'm one very fortunate man.
jeremy
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Location: Minnetonka | I prefer to walk the fine line that runs between muskie nut and family man, and I commend those that choose one extreme or the other. Nobody is doing it wrong, as long as you're being true to yourself. |
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Location: Lake "y" cause lake"x" got over fished | fishhawk50 - 5/8/2014 8:18 AM
my wife outfishes me some years.. i got lucky!
My wife out fishes me 9 out of 10 times. I am yet another lucky one |
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Location: Duluth, MN | Life is way too short to live it trying to make someone else happy. Either there is compromise that is acceptable to both sides or there isn't. The choice after that is easy. |
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| Got into Musky fishing with my first fish in 1976 (42.5) and dove in head first, boat, equipment and two to three weekends per month in the Minouqua area. Ducked out and stayed out during the late 80's and 90's and a little more including selling the boat. What happened? My second marriage and a second pair of children happened. I had told wife #1 if she didn't like my fishing, hunting and long work hours, I'd be happy to hold the door for her while she cleared out. She quickly left. When the second set of kids came along, I (quite thankfully) saw the light. I wanted those kids and today, that means having to be a father...not just a biological sire. So, I put fishing on hold. I dragged the kids to ballet, gymnastics, and soccer. (Still don't know how the heck soccer works....keep looking for a quarterback) Than, thankfully baseball came along for both and I was my son's Little League coach and was asked my my daughter's varsity softball coach to manage the girls all summer when WIAA rules require the real coach to stay away. I raised those kids and I was PRESENT even though I obviously learned the hard way. Now, the kids are beyond college and I am fishing plenty hard again. What is really important in life? It's family that is important and that means two parents doing it if none is dead. I am into musky fishing as much as anybody on this board, but compared to my family it dosen't mean crap! |
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| My wife/family come first. No matter what. She has seen me through some dark times. She loves to be in the boat, fishing she said she could take it or leave it. As for me leaving town to fish for the weekend or for a week where ever, she is happy that I can get away. If there is a family event we are always there together. We have been together for 34 years. It is hard to believe it has been that long. |
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| fellow addicts ...calculate what you've spent in the last 10 years... boats, trucks, fuel, baits, lodging, rods, reels, replicas on and on + your time!... Takes a good women to put up with a serious Muskie guy |
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Location: Money, PA | bowhunter29 - 5/8/2014 11:24 AM
KSauers - 5/8/2014 9:03 AM
How many of you have been stuck in this position? How many marriages have ended because of musky fishing? how many have been forced to decide between the wife and musky fishing up north or in Canada?
Dude, you're coming at this from the wrong perspective. Why does it have to be either / or?
If a hobby costs someone a marriage, their priorities are certainly in the wrong place. If someone is that selfish, they shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. Be a husband/father- don't stop dating your wife, help out around the house, spend quality time with her and the kids. Invest in your marriage!
I'm far from the worlds best husband but I do my part around the house and I spend a lot of time with my kids. My wife is very supportive of my hunting / fishing / rod building and she has NEVER said no to a hunting / fishing trip for me- she's never even given me a hard time about all the time I spend hunting and fishing. I'm one very fortunate man.
jeremy
On a more serious note...very well said! |
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Location: Northern Illinois | I've only been married for a little over 3 years. However, my wife does get mad at me from time to time on saving money and not spending so much on musky fishing. She always tells me, "how are we going to afford a dream cabin on a great musky lake?" That's always a great way to get me to slow down. She loves to fish and but doesn't always want to which I'm fine with. I'm happy if she's on the lake with me and I'm happy when she's not. Sometimes it is good to get away from each other every now and again! |
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Location: Blaine, MN | Got the go ahead a few years ago to buy my dream boat, the "One" I had saved years for. Gave my wife a kiss as I was leaving to finalize the deal and I watched her struggle to put our 2 girls into the back seat of her 2 door Grand Am... After 2 days at the cabin (Brainerd) searching, I came home with a boat that was 1/5 of what I was going to spend being towed by her new Jeep Grand Cherokee (Her "Eleanor" since she quit her Chrysler job)... Not the same situation but just my perspective...I love to Fish/Hunt/Play ball, but making the girls happy is a priority in my life too, I would be lost without them.... Funny thing is 2 weeks ago I hear "I really like the new Tahoe's." That's not happening. |
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| My wife picked out our Ranger.
Count me as a lucky one too.
My wife is constantly dreaming about how we can either have careers in Vilas County, or how we can save to retire there early.
Again, count me as lucky. |
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| Been married for 7 years now and this was one of the hardest pills to swallow, especially once the kids came. But like others said, you gotta know your priorities and think big picture. The muskies will still be there in a few years, they're not packing up and moving away! My compromise is to take quality trips over the quantity of trips and when I get to go, fish my ass off! |
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