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| you can always get a vascectomy and keep it secret. Then when u go to the fertility doc and your sperm counts come back low you can use depression from not feeling like a man as an excuse to fish more. |
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| Having a kid might limit the time a bit, it's all relative to the wife you picked though.
If before a child, you have a hard time getting permission from the wife to go, then you can sell the gear the day the kid is born. I've seen it enough with enough guys.
If you get out a lot before the child, then you probably have a wife who understands that you need your time on the water. Then, you start taking the kid along as the kid gets older. You might sacrifice some potential musky time for bluegills, but you'll learn it's worth it. Some outings will get cut short b/c the kid doesn't want to go any longer, but again, you'll learn it's worth it.
I picked the right wife, and my time on the water shows it. I have some buddies who didn't necessarily pick the right wife, and their time on the water is either drastically down or non-existent. Pick wisely young men. I cleared everything on how this would all go months before I even proposed. We went over it again before deciding to have a kid. When both parties are on board, it's a breeze to have a family and spend a lot of time on the water. |
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| Lumpy - 10/9/2015 1:14 PM
Having a kid might limit the time a bit, it's all relative to the wife you picked though.
If before a child, you have a hard time getting permission from the wife to go, then you can sell the gear the day the kid is born. I've seen it enough with enough guys.
If you get out a lot before the child, then you probably have a wife who understands that you need your time on the water. Then, you start taking the kid along as the kid gets older. You might sacrifice some potential musky time for bluegills, but you'll learn it's worth it. Some outings will get cut short b/c the kid doesn't want to go any longer, but again, you'll learn it's worth it.
I picked the right wife, and my time on the water shows it. I have some buddies who didn't necessarily pick the right wife, and their time on the water is either drastically down or non-existent. Pick wisely young men. I cleared everything on how this would all go months before I even proposed. We went over it again before deciding to have a kid. When both parties are on board, it's a breeze to have a family and spend a lot of time on the water.
This is exactly right. My boys are young and my time is shrinking, but my wife is becoming interested in fishing as she sees the value of relaxing on the water. As my boys get older my time will rebound and then it will be time with my family which is even better. |
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| Good marriage therapy on this thread.
I've always assumed that every post I have ever read was from a man. Are there any women posting on here? |
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Location: Sawyer County, WI | Lumpy - 10/9/2015 1:14 PM
If before a child, you have a hard time getting permission from the wife to go, then you can sell the gear the day the kid is born. I've seen it enough with enough guys.
Poor is the man whose pleasures depends on the permission of another. |
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Location: Tennessee | One thing I've saw is drama being a big killjoy in muskie. Not everyone wants to butt heads and constantly fight and argue with people but it happens all too often. It's so frustrating at times when you just want to go and have a good time and not worry about other things besides catching a fish. one person wants you to hate this person because they do and expect sides to be chosen and vice versa. I see alot of where guys seem to think because they are fishing for an apex predator that they have to personify the behavior of this apex predator in human form and trample over everyone else and maintain the highest standard of arrogance. You do see this eventually in all species of fishing but it seems to be much more heavily pronounced in the muskie circle based off my firsthand. |
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Location: MN | Wood_Duck - 10/10/2015 9:21 AM
One thing I've saw is drama being a big killjoy in muskie. Not everyone wants to butt heads and constantly fight and argue with people but it happens all too often. It's so frustrating at times when you just want to go and have a good time and not worry about other things besides catching a fish. one person wants you to hate this person because they do and expect sides to be chosen and vice versa. I see alot of where guys seem to think because they are fishing for an apex predator that they have to personify the behavior of this apex predator in human form and trample over everyone else and maintain the highest standard of arrogance. You do see this eventually in all species of fishing but it seems to be much more heavily pronounced in the muskie circle based off my firsthand.
What kind of people do you hang out with? Wow |
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Location: West Central WI | Stay connected and fish with more than one partner. Join Muskies, Inc if you haven't done so already. Talk to others. I had a close call with quitting one year when I was fishing the same lake day after day. After weeks of not seeing a fish I was so burned out, I didn't fish for three weeks during a prime time of the year and went into a funk. I called a friend and long-time muskie fisherman to ask him what to do to get me back in the game. He said, "Two words. New water." I went to a different lake and the change was wonderful. It got me out of my funk even though I didn't catch a muskie. Now, when I'm having a bad streak, I grab a friend and head to a new lake or one I haven't been to in a long time. It totally resets the mind.
You'll work through it if you decide to do something about that day if it ever comes. It's a sad day when someone quits other than for health reasons. The friend I mentioned above did end up having health problems, but I drug him along on some of those trips and he thoroughly loved just being out and watching me fish. It's more about getting out and finding partners who enjoy not only the fishing, but the beauty of nature.
I wish you a long and wonderful muskie fishing life.
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Location: Illinois | I don't even know where to start with this thread! As sad as I am for some of you guys that decided to get married and have a family, which in turn lessened your hours on the water, .......wasn't that the deal? Marriage is based off of compromise, and that compromise is increased 10fold when kids are brought into the picture. I sacrifice my time and anything else I have to for the good of the group. What I don't give up or compromise is what makes "Me" me, the person my wife married. I still do all the things I love, maybe not as much as I used to, but that's my choice. My family is priority number 1, and then everything else falls into line. I fish for muskies or really any other species for that matter without my wife and kids once or maybe twice a year. I coach wrestling, hunt, lift,....and that hasn't changed from the first kid to the fourth. My wife doesn't necessarily like wrestling or hunting, and she could care less about fishing, but she knows I do, so we make it work.
I fished for muskies for 3 days this year, and prepared for 362 days to do so. I didn't catch anything. There was a moment when I forgot about having another opportunity to fish with my dad and brothers, and I started to feel sorry for myself. I don't own a boat(yet), and I don't live close to a good musky lake as far as I know. It only took seeing one +50" fish gingerly swim up to the top of the water next to the boat on eagle 4 years ago. It appeared more interested in eyeballing me, and giving me the fin, than the lure I was retrieving. I don't know how long that knee knocking moment will keep me fired up about that short window of hope I have once a year, but Im planning on it taking me through the next 50 years!
Quitting is easy. Embrace the grind and find a way! |
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| If your wife respects who you are and what you're about, and you give her the same respect, fishing shouldn't be over for you. I'd be out today if not for 3 yards of dirt and a garage full of boxes to unpack. But then Samantha would be parking in the garage if not for the new (to me) Ranger in the way, so it all works out in the end. I am just lucky that she loves to fish. I know we'll have to spend some days fishing for bass and walleyes and panfish over muskies, but they aren't going anywhere. And watching her get all excited about catching a fish reminds me that I shoudln't be scoffing at a 38"er like I sometimes do. Balance. |
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Location: Tennessee | Propster - 10/10/2015 10:23 AM
Wood_Duck - 10/10/2015 9:21 AM
One thing I've saw is drama being a big killjoy in muskie. Not everyone wants to butt heads and constantly fight and argue with people but it happens all too often. It's so frustrating at times when you just want to go and have a good time and not worry about other things besides catching a fish. one person wants you to hate this person because they do and expect sides to be chosen and vice versa. I see alot of where guys seem to think because they are fishing for an apex predator that they have to personify the behavior of this apex predator in human form and trample over everyone else and maintain the highest standard of arrogance. You do see this eventually in all species of fishing but it seems to be much more heavily pronounced in the muskie circle based off my firsthand.
What kind of people do you hang out with? Wow
you dont even want to know lol. welcome to muskie fishing in the south |
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| 3 Days on the water without seeing a fish is making me want to quit. JK I hate these dang fish right now though. |
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| I spent last weekend without seeing one. I quit. Til next time. |
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| Haha same here cant wait to get back out for another chance! Its amazing how just seeing a fish after a bad few trips can turn things around. |
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| I have quit for one main reason and a couple of others. I can't go fishing by myself anymore because it's physically impossible. I couldn't even load the boat any more. I'm retired and should be fishing my butt off, but I have a daughter in college who requires funding and I no longer have a boat. My phone never rings with invitations to go fishing, but even if it did, I'd have to turn most down because of living on a fixed income. So, I'm hoping to buy another boat in a couple of years, but I think my target species will change from muskies back to riverine species that live in The Mississippi River...ie: bass, walleyes, pike and panfish....all in trophy size. I hope to get out every September, my favorite time of years to fish for muskies, and again in the fall. The days of me being a muskie fisherman exclusively are over. |
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| dfkiii - 10/9/2015 5:21 PM
Poor is the man whose pleasures depends on the permission of another.
That is a quote to live by. And she sure sounded good when she sang it...
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Location: NW WI | * My oldest son is gone and the two remaining boys have zero interest in fishing. I will not force it on them.
* Wife doesn't fish.
* Don't like fishing alone.
* Less disposable income so no boat just sitting in the driveway getting used 2X per year.
* Too many hours on the water without even seeing a fish.....fishing got harder thru the years for me...not easier.
* Lastly (if I think longer I'll come up with more reasons) I guess I'm just a dick because several people that have taken me out I've never hear from again despite my attempts...and no I'm not cheap. Hard to admit this in oublic but it is what it is I guess. |
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| Make that 4 times out and not seeing a fish. Back at it again tomorrow. |
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| Age is a factor I would think
Family related activities another
But I think SLED nailed it pretty well---there are so many other outdoor opportunities for fishing and other things. I have also switched from just Musky fishing for 20 years to enjoying many other fishing opportunities.. I find fishing much more pleasurable now--year round --Ice and open water. I still get my musky fix by spending time chasing them occasionally-----but really love my walleye-smallmouth--and Crappie outings even more.. I also will chase some great lakes Salmon ever year.
Musky are nice----but I have found they are by far--Not the only enjoyable fishing available....
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